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Rule well. o Take time to lay ground rules and make sure everyone understands and agrees so expectations are set properly. Keep them simple, easily enforced, and biblically based.o 2 Thessalonians 3:10 For even when we were with
you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. When the rules are broken, plan appropriate consequences. Use force sparingly and wisely. Consider withdrawing
privileges. Ideas include: § allowance§ phone § computer § movies/TV § desert § cereal § ballet § band § soccer § transportation § free housing, utilities, clothing, food § relocate to smaller, less convenient housing o Do not tolerate either disrespect or disobedience. § "Don't speak to me that way."§ "Your behavior is disrespectful." § "Please say that one more time." § "I will answer your question after you obey me." o Be an example of behavior you desire/expect from others. o When you see a problem, do not ignore it. Take note and pray for wisdom. (James 1:5) o Get the facts, establish them, write them down if need be. o Pick your battles carefully and win them at any cost. o Give commands when you expect obedience, requests when it does not matter that much to you. Don't respond to or answer a matter before you have all of the relevant details. If you think you have been insulted, disobeyed, defied, clarify and communicate clearly. Don't presume a response or a reaction until it occurs. Do not assume anything. Have a plan prayed through for every anticipated response. If the response is unanticipated, hold off on your response if appropriate until a focused, prayerful decision can be made. It is more difficult to respect a weak, indecisive, foolish leader. Do what you can to earn respect. Do not be artificially hard, yet neither voluntarily disclose personal weaknesses unless it is appropriate to edify another by way of example or encouragement, which will likely be both seldom and obvious. Don't purposefully make it hard for those who must follow you to do so ... if this can be avoided. Retain gentleness, mercy, lovingkindness and godly pity. Do not expect more of others than you do of yourself.
Think how you would feel if you were your wife or one of your children.
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