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Kings and Priests

The quest for healthy masculinity lies in the pursuit of Christ Himself: He is the ideal Man in every respect, the very embodiment of infinite, perfect masculinity. (Co 2:9) In pursuing His likeness we find everything we need in Him. (10) Through Him we study Him, we contemplate Him, we align our beliefs and wills with His as He enables and equips us (Php 2:13): we follow His steps. (1Pe 2:21)

We might begin to comprehend the masculine essence of Christ by observing how He perfectly fulfills the triune role of Prophet, Priest and Warrior-King: He’s the ultimate Prophet (De 18:18), reconciling us to God  (2Co 5:19) as our Great High Priest (He 4:14), revealed as the ultimate Warrior to destroy all satanic works (1Jn 3:8b), reigning supreme as King of Kings (Re 19:16). He also, as our Brother (He 2:11-12), calls us to put Himself on (Ro 13:14), to emulate Him as prophets (1Co 14:31), priests and warrior-kings. (Re 1:6)

The Prophetic role is the foundation: godly masculinity is grounded in wisdom (Pr 23:23) and truth (Ep 6:14a); we pursue the truth about God, about ourselves and others: about all of Reality. (Pr 23:23) In speaking truth we do so in love (Ep 4:15), seeking to edify rather than shame or manipulate; we don’t force the truth, casting pearls before swine (Mt 7:6), or weaponize it. (Pr 12:18)

The Priestly role builds on truth and love relationally, both pursuing the divine romance ourselves and also inviting others into it. (2Co 5:20) The priest is the ultimate peacemaker, first finding personal healing and reconciliation with God, and then facilitating soul restoration amidst relational chaos in both family and community. He develops emotional intelligence, opening his own heart to feel the pain of others (He 4:15), empathizing with those who are ignorant and lost (He 5:2) yet keeping healthy boundaries. He’s free to be wisely compassionate, not enabling sin while gently promoting the way to freedom. (2Ti 2:24-26)

The warrior-king wields the truth and authority of God to bring his sphere of influence into order before God. His weapons are not carnal and fleshly, but mighty through God to expose and dismantle spiritual strongholds. (2Co 10:4) He begins by mastering himself (Pr 25:28), disciplining his mind (2Co 10:5) and body (1Co 9:27) for the glory of God. (1Co 10:31) Then as servant-king he leads by gentle example (2Ti 2:24-25) and self-sacrifice (Ep 5:25), prayerfully empowering others in their pursuit of God. (Php 1:9-11)

This is an iterative journey, building healthy masculinity layer upon layer, dismantling the dead weight of the carnal mind one lie at a time. These three facets of divine masculinity: prophet, priest and warrior-king, are interconnected, divine qualities the Spirit of Christ manifests in men seeking to live according to His design. He will glorify Himself in a uniquely masculine way within each brother submitting to Him; we may not all look and act in exactly the same ways (1Co 7:7), but we’re all pursuing the same Master, and God Himself will show us the way. (Php 3:13-15)

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Touched With the Feeling

To say I hate the way western civilization has emasculated men, trying to turn us into women, is an understatement. In struggling with my own confidence, masculinity and identity as a man, Feminism demanding we “get in touch with our emotions” while rejecting our competence and strength hasn’t helped, to say the least.

In pursing healthy masculinity, trying to understand God’s design for men and looking for His perfect standard, I need not look very far at all: the perfect Man, the Prophet-Priest-Warrior-King, lives inside and beckons me onward in my journey.

God has already made me both a king and a priest (Re 5:10), inducting me into an holy, royal priesthood (1Pe 2:5, 9), so Christ’s kingly, priestly qualities are to imbue my manhood.

A central quality of a kingly priest is compassion for those who are ignorant, who have lost their way. (He 5:1-2) Godly masculine love for others should be always looking for how best to encourage and edify them in their connection with God. (2Co 5:18-20) This not only requires me to be closely connected with God myself, but to carefully observe the needs of others and meet them where they’re at.

My example here is Christ Himself, of course, my great High Priest (He 4:14), Who knows me intimately and is always praying for me. (He 7:25) He has not only personally experienced the deepest traumas, temptations and suffering life can offer (He 4:15b), enabling Him to empathize with me, He is Personally touched with the feeling of (my) infirmities. (He 4:15a) This key phrase translates sympatheō, implying a deep, visceral sympathy or co-suffering; it’s not mere pity from afar; it’s an empathetic resonance where He feels the weight of my weaknesses as if they are His own, rooted in shared experience with me.

In other words, Christ is so in touch with His own feelings, so emotionally intelligent and connected, so secure in Himself, that He so fully acknowledges my feelings and connects with them that He invites me in my joy and pain into shared emotional experience with Himself; He allows the feelings of my personal ups and downs into His own heart and lets me touch Him where it’s real, where it matters most.

Father God is not afraid of my pain, of my fears, of my feelings of inadequacy; He knows all there is to know about me. (Ps 139:1-4) In knowing me and loving me, He is inviting me to know myself, and to love myself, to become more like Him, emotionally intelligent and free, not controlled by emotions, but embracing, embodying and mastering them for His glory.

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